Hair Pull Sex?? Very Niiiice.
There’s something primal about hair pulling. Done right, it’s hot as hell. A mix of dominance, intimacy, and raw electricity. Done wrong? It’s just painful and awkward.
So let’s get into the how and the when of turning a simple tug into a moment she’ll crave.
Rule #1: Don’t Yank, Control
The number one mistake? Grabbing a fistful of hair and yanking like you’re starting a lawn mower. Hair pulling isn’t about violence! It’s about control.
Your goal should be to guide her. Move her head, expose her neck, direct her somehow. It’s not about scalp pain; it’s about guiding her body so that she can let go of herself.
So if you find yourself lucky enough to be doing it doggystyle, don’t take a handful of hair and lean back like you’re waterskiing. Run your fingers up the nape of her neck, gently take her hair in your hands, and turn her head so you can nibble her ear. Fucking. Sploosh.
Rule #2: Go for the Roots
Ever had a toddler grab your hair and just yank at the ends? OUCH!
You have to get close to the scalp. Slide your hand in, spread your fingers, and grip at the roots. That way, the pressure distributes across her head instead of tearing at a handful of fragile strands.
So, say you’re in missionary and she of course looks just perfect. Softly stroke her hair behind her ear, and wrap your fingers at the base of her strands while you pull her in for a deep kiss. The “oh my God, I’m safe however he takes me” feeling will drive her wild.
Rule #3: Pair It With Something
Just grabbing a handful of hair and staring at each other is awkward. Treating a gentle tug as a full body experience says “You’re mine right now.” and makes the moment magic.
Hair pulling simply works best as part of a bigger picture. Pair it with a kiss. Press her against the wall. Bend her over. Pull her into you while you fuck her from behind. It’s what you incorporate it into that makes hair pulling so erotic.
Rule #4: Timing is Everything
Not every second is the right second. Start slow, build tension. A gentle tug when you’re kissing? Teasing. A firmer pull when she’s moaning your name? That’s your green light right there!
And don’t forget release. Letting go at the right time can be just as powerful as the pull itself.
While she’s giving you a BJ, run your fingers through her hair just above her ears,firmly tilt her beautiful face to look up at you, and relax your hands as you tell her how perfect she is. Pet her a little bit, tighten your grip, relax again. Praise and borderline BDSM stimulation? Yes please!!
Rule #5: Read the Room (and Her Body)
Like anything kinky, hair pulling works best with consent and feedback. If she leans into it, moans, or grabs your wrist to keep you there, you’re golden. If she stiffens up or pulls away, ease off.
Remember: This isn’t about making her endure something (unless she’s into that), it’s about giving her a rush she’ll remember later with a sly little grin!
The Bottom Line
Hair pulling isn’t just about pain or force – it’s about control, timing, and connection. When done right, it heightens everything: the kiss, the fuck, the moment.
It’s one of those simple moves that can instantly shift the energy from sweet to feral.
So, next time your hands are in her hair, play with her. 😘
